Would you say that you love where you live? Why or why not? What circumstances led you there? Did you consciously choose it? Do you often wish you were somewhere else?
My answers to these questions would have been very different were it not for a life-changing move that I made several months before the pandemic was declared.
I moved away from home when I was 17 to attend university in another city; I stayed after graduation, feeling I had outgrown my hometown but not knowing where else to go. I wanted to remain where my new social connections were, and for a long time I do feel I was happy there. However, as the years progressed I found myself travelling regularly- feeling an intense need to escape to places I found more beautiful, intriguing and inspirational. As soon as I returned from one trip I would start planning the next, trying desperately to avoid the feeling of discontent and restlessness that seemed to plague me.
In the Spring of 2019 while planning and embarking on a bucket list trip to Scandinavia, I was feeling unsettled in my career, my external environment, my habits and routine, the entirety of my life. I was searching for a spark of insight into how I could make some meaningful changes. I treated this particular trip as an exploration of new possibilities and an opportunity to clarify my values. I felt an intense desire to find ‘my place’ in the world, a place that truly felt like home.
I began to take note (literally and figuratively) of the qualities I was drawn to in the places I kept travelling to. Would it not make sense to surround myself with those aspects on a more permanent basis? It seemed so simple once I focused my attention on it. There were many elements that inspired me both on that particular trip and during past travels that became clearly identifiable in terms of what I was looking for in a forever home:
- Living by the ocean or the sea
- The presence of water, especially salt water, fills me with a peace and level of calm that I cannot find in any other environment. The feeling of being near a body of water that spreads so vastly across the Earth is lifeblood for me, connecting me to the great unknown and invigorating me with a zest for life. The clean tang of ocean air, traces of salt clinging to your hair and skin after a swim, the abundance of marine life…it truly cannot be replicated.
- Embracing the great outdoors
- Living in the middle of a busy, land-locked city, I never felt a true connection to nature. There were small parks in and around town, but nothing to really spark excitement or motivate exploration. I wanted to immerse myself in the culture of outdoor living that I so admired, particularly as exemplified in Scandinavian countries. Nature has a way of soothing my often restless mind and fostering a sense of presence and mindfulness that improves my quality of life immensely.
- A small-town vibe
- While I’ve enjoyed having access to the many different opportunities and events that big cities can offer, I feel so much happier in small towns and villages, with a cozy feel and slower pace of life. As a previous victim of the ‘grind’ culture, I have stressed myself out to the point of illness in previous corporate and management roles. I am grateful for the lesson this has taught me in terms of focusing more on inner peace as a measure of success and I find this easier to embody when away from big-city life.
- Being close to the mountains
- The sight of mountains, whether near or far, invokes a passionate and almost emotional response in the core of my being. I find them to be the ultimate grounding presence. Jagged rock rising from the depths of the earth, snow-capped peaks and the way that light, shadow, cloud and fog will play and dance off of these features is mesmerizing to me. Any place I have travelled to with this varying terrain has called to me and is a far cry from the flat landscape of the city in which I previously lived.
Upon returning home from this journey, having clarified what I knew I needed to thrive, going on with life as I knew it was inconceivable. Plans quickly unfolded for a life-changing move across my country of Canada from the interior to the place I now call home: the wild and wonderful Pacific Northwest. I live in a small and utterly charming city, bounded by ocean to the west and mountains to the east, both within view out my windows. There is a plethora of glorious nature to explore and a palpable, relaxed feel. To exist where the natural elements support my wellness on a daily basis has set the foundation for positive shifts in many other aspects of my life. With every fiber of my being I can finally say I have found my place, my forever home- made all the more meaningful by the fact that I consciously chose it.
What are your favourite elements of the place you call home? I would love to know!
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Thank you so much for such a kind comment! That really means a lot to me. Wishing you all the best as well 🙂
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Glad you’ve managed to find that enriching home that emulates so many of your favourite Scandinavian traits 🙂
Tom- you are making my week with all of your thoughtful and genuine comments haha. What do you love about where you live?
I was about to read your piece on Scandinavia, but the opening line made me think that I should read this article first. Searching for a home, for your place in the world, is something that resonates with me a lot. We are in the midst of such a search complicated further by the fact that neither one of us is enchanted with the prospect of settling in our native countries. The place you live in sounds absolutely perfect and I am happy that you managed to find it. We hope that some day on our travels we might chance upon a place that fulfils our vision of a home. Somewhere with mountains, sea views, nature, and a lot of quietness, nice people and residential requirements we can satisfy.
Thank you so much for this comment, Leighton. Searching for a place to settle in this world that truly feels like home is a great challenge- particularly as a traveller, I think. The more you have seen and experienced, the list of desired criteria definitely expands and diversifies. The qualities that you are looking for are beautiful and so similar to what I desire(d) in a home for myself. Have any countries made your short list?
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Oh so many I hardly know where to begin. I think ideally somewhere like Sicily or The Scottish Highlands would work for us. Or even somewhere like the Greek island of Naxos, where I write this comment to you now. Sadly it is really complicated qualifying for long term residential visas when you have clashing passports. But we are working on it.